A whole new world where laughter and win-win situations are not rare is the world of great communication and by these, humans have been able to explore and enjoy each other’s attitude towards one another, including other living and non-living things. Humans are not created to be alone and that’s why Eve was created to accompany Adam.

The feeling of wanting to know someone, wanting to share views and opinions, emotions, admiration, utilisation and the thirst for companionship are the thrills of relationships. 

Linguists refer to Language as the principal method of communication, consisting of words used in a structured and conventional way and conveyed by speech, writing or gesture. 

However, our method of language determines what kind of communication we get and the response we receive from the other party.

We can communicate in various ways from the use of 

– Non-verbal communication which consists of intentional or unintentional facial expressions, gestures, posture, physical touch and eye contact. 

– Verbal communication which our pitch, tone and content affect our speech 

– Written communication which involves the content, structure of the content and clarity. 

– Visual communication which involves the use of social media and all other digital platforms. The tone and content are also of great importance. 

Now, have you ever tried communicating with someone and they just put you off or not getting the same energy from them?  Has making your opinion known and negotiating been so difficult or has made friends so uneasy? Why?

Dear reader, continue reading and you will find out the missing piece of chess that is needed to make you the winner of the game.

Certain rules to communication ensure that you get what you want regardless of the nature, position or affirmations of the other party and it is also important to set the table for mutual understanding and long-term relationships. 

7 Rules of Language that Aid Better Communication 

1. Drop Your Ego

One factual truth about every human being is that we like to be respected and of course, it should be reciprocal. When having a conversation with another person, especially for the first time, it is important to give your fair share of respect regardless of who the person is.

The way of humanity is to treat everyone with kindness and good regard irrespective of who that person is. Trust, me, you are set to get the conversation rolling. Let’s go.

2. Have Courtesy

Courtesy comes with immediate words of respect and reassurance, examples are, sorry, please, thank you, I can help you with that, you’re welcome, to mention but a few. All these come with the right facial expressions and actions towards balancing the words of your mouth.

Right at the moment, you are having their hearts already and their attention are fixated on you. You get the audience of the person you want and that person would readily want to listen to you and even respond in a very polite manner. Now, we are set, let’s continue.

3. Start the Conversation

There are various ways to start conversations, you can introduce yourself with warm handshakes, comment on something pleasant, mention a shared experience, ask for an opinion, render or ask for help, show genuine interest, etc. 

Confidence is an important factor when conversing with someone. You must reflect on your charms even while staying humble. Try not to be intimidated.

4. Listen Attentively

Paying attention to the other person and listening attentively helps you know the person you are communicating with better. From their words, you can easily decipher some of the things they are capable of, things they like, and things they don’t like. 

Let the other person finish his or her words before you continue yours. Don’t just interrupt in the middle or intrude. It gives off a bad or uncomfortable impression about you.

It helps you to know your next move, what to say and what not to say. It is from this point that you know if you want the conversation to continue,  want the relationship to continue or end.

It also gives you time for better observation and to make quick and emergency decisions.

5. Pay attention to gestures

It is important to pay attention to the other person’s gestures, it will help you know what gesture, posture or expression is needed at the moment to compliment the atmosphere and give it a perfect balance.

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6. Respect the Other Party’s Opinion

At this stage, even if you want to make your opinion known, what you have to say should not be the priority.  Remember that what is 6 to you could be 9 to another person and both of you will still be correct. 

Even if you have a different opinion or belief from what the other person is saying, let the person finish what he or she is saying,  don’t give off the impression or expressions that the other person is saying nonsense just because it contradicts your opinion or stands.

Reasonably and with a sense of responsibility, carefully make your opinion known and be sure that you are right, that way, the other party will also accept your view. 

You just got rid of unnecessary arguments.

7. Politely End a Conversation

After your mission has been accomplished,  of which you have created the foundation and basis of a future friendship, you can politely put an end to the conversation. 

There are many ways you can politely end a conversation,  they are, it was a pleasure meeting you, thank you for taking the time to catch up with me, it will be a great honour for us to meet again like this, you can give the other person your business card or request of theirs,  I have to go now since I’m behind time, let’s meet some other time and lots more.

Note that, it is important to maintain a positive energy all through the conversation and show a glimpse of optimism. It makes the other person feel important and makes them ready and would likely to accept what’s coming next.

Remember not to be overly excited at things that don’t demand excitement, just go with the flow with a calm and positive mindset.

And, don’t forget to exchange contacts. 

Wow, It was an interesting move, wasn’t it? Your goal has been achieved and you’re smiling right now. So, what next?…

The next thing is to maintain whatever relationship you want with the person and remember to do unto others what you want them to do to you too.

Ways to Maintain Good Relationships

– Don’t call someone more than twice if it’s not an emergency situation. 

– When you borrow money from someone, return it even before they ask. And if you don’t have it yet, don’t assume the person will understand or has forgotten. Politely explain the situation to the person and bring it up once in a while.

– When you are treated to lunch or dinner, buy for the person next time and don’t always try to be too forward by picking the most expensive dish on the menu. Be responsible. 

– Be nice to people around you, no matter their status. 

– One good turn deserves another, learn to pay back good deeds.

– Normalize apologizing when you are wrong and you must be sincere about it.

– When you tease someone and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it.

– Don’t brag about your achievements 

– Learn to keep promises and secrets.

– Make it a habit to always say ” Thank you” in response to good deeds.

Are you still hesitating to start that conversation? Get started now.