The worst statement/remark I’ve heard before in my life: “You’re a good person/guy”. Yes, it’s worst because it always came from the lips of the women I loved and wanted to date. Often accompanied with, “But I don’t want to date you”. And then, “Let’s be good friends”.

I became so used to those words that it sounded to me like a mantra or a poem that’s learned only by girls like we all learnt “Twinkle little star” as kids. “Don’t people want to be with good people?”, “Don’t women say they hate being treated badly/harshly?”.

Yes, years after, learning what that means, being a “nice guy”, I got really vexed. Hated to be complimented that way, most especially by girls. See, each time I read about it, or saw videos about it, I was mad. I studied a lot about it and how to go about getting off that hook. Some books, YouTube videos, Online Dating and relationship coaches helped.

It’s all history now.

Sometimes when fellow guys say “women don’t know what they really want”, and girls become really emotional about it, I just shake my head and move, like, “You’re not feeling fine” kind of move. “You’re angry and denying the obvious” type.

Women are beautiful humans but at the same time they can be very weird and could require a special understanding to really relate with them on different grounds depending on how you intend to lead the relationship. But most importantly, you must understand women; how their ideology, mentality came to be. You don’t necessarily have to hate them. Particularly “your” woman.

I don’t intend to start a coaching career in woman-hunting or female psychology with my experience, I only figured a few stuff that could be responsible for the seeming stereotype and maybe someday I’ll talk about it but for now, let’s just enjoy our coffee, read more books and aquire more life experience—step up.

Yours lovingly,

Hagios A. Akins