The way our dreams usually plan the playback is awesome. You’d find yourself dreaming about a thing and the second the “action” is about to happen, boom!, your alarm would sound, or somebody would just call you or mosquitoes would bite you. In the end, the dream is truncated. You’re left in the suspense.

Life generally is full of suspense. The uncertainty of what lies in the end—where’s this going?—that’s what makes it beautiful. And the earlier you adjust to this truth, the better is it for you; the more relaxed you become, the less careful you become.

Everything cannot always go your way. Everything cannot happen the way you’ve planned it. Stuff change, things crumble and you don’t get to do anything about it. Your friend today might end up being your sworn enemy tomorrow.

Live life in the present. Hold on to the truth you have today because by itself, it changes, too, with time. Take each day one at a time. Don’t let the past dictate to you what lies in front of you today. I have misjudged people based on what they do that I’ve seen done by the people I hated in the past and have hurt me. That’s wrong. That’s a defense mechanism that made me stuck in my past. The feeling was not good at all. It took me tons of books to get myself together and just lead a normal life without suspecting everyone.

I feared uncertainty mostly in my life till I understood that it’s inevitable. Qué Sera sera—what will be will be. You cannot be certain about anything or everything till you die. You cannot know everything. Just live each day as it comes. Love the people you’re attracted to and be honest about your intentions at the moment.

Rather than seeking to be certain about anything, turn the process into an adventure. Make it fun for you. You will understand people—different psychology, different culture. It’s okay to not know which way to go, what to do and what to say or how to. Just dive into it, do anything anyway, say anything anyhow. Be sincere when you do. You will learn many things even as you unlearn a lot more.

Don’t be rigid, be flexible. Be like water that takes the shape of the container (bottle) it finds itself. Adjust to the present. Seeking to be certain about anything, everything, leaves you rigid, and like stone or other solid matter, you become difficult to contain. You become paranoid at the slightest agitation. You become worried that it’s not going according to plan. You injure your health in the process—anger, depression.

Just live, quit the quest for certainty. Uncertainty is inevitable. That’s how life is designed. That’s some shit we all have to live up to. No one knows exactly when he’ll die or how. That’s what keeps everyone on their toes. Adjust to this wholesome truth—accepting that the only way to deal with uncertainty is accepting uncertainty. It’s not a curse to fear, it’s freedom to embrace. Explore.

Yours with love,

Hagios A. Akins