There are various conformities to life and these choices directly or indirectly affect our lives, especially our future. We could talk about fate but we are the architect of our own lives. Every decision we make, every step we take and every word we say come together to form something in our life, which could either be good or bad.

However, living a good life means that you must purge yourself of any impurities that can mar any part of you, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, socially, and academically, among others. Everybody wants peace and happiness but how do you attain this when you can’t right the wrong?

The past means events that have happened, and with it, we learn and create a better future, but if the past is ruining the future, then we are living an unhealthy and clueless life that is detrimental to our existence.

There are two types of past.

The Bad Past

These are bad or hurtful events, experiences, or occurrences that have happened in one’s life. They cause trauma for some people and make it difficult for some to move on, the power of a bad past must not be underestimated. It is like a spirit on its own that lingers around the heart and when there is the slightest opening, it makes its way into the heart and begins to dominate the mind and body until it destroys the host.

It eats people from the inside, making the them weak and unable to figure out solutions or see the situations from a better perspective. However, that is only when you allow it. Grief is, of course, an important part of life but it is aimed at becoming an eye-opener, a teacher for whoever is hurt.

When you grieve excessively, you become weak when it should make you stronger. Certain events are too hurtful, but regardless of how hurtful it is, you must live on. You must survive it, get up on your feet and defeat the past.

What does living mean? Living means being optimistic about life and bravely fighting through it. One could be alive but dead at the same time. Such a person is broken, has no will to live, and has been devoured by the past.

It is okay to cry, get hurt, be sad, and be angry but you must pick yourself up and put the past in its place. If it is a mistake, it gives you a chance to correct it, if it could not be avoided, then you learn from it to become better. That is when you are truly living. Birth, pain, sickness, and death are all phenomena of nature, but you can choose how to create your phenomenon.

The Good Past

They are eventful, pleasant, and beautiful memories of things that have happened in the past, sometimes, you want to recreate those memories because they are just too beautiful. They bring positive thoughts, optimism, and happiness. 

You could be alone, remember them, and start smiling or you could share with friends, families, or even strangers because it makes you that happy.

Your past in a way influences your life positively so that you don’t remain trapped in agony without moving forward. In life, there are things people must let go of for the sake of their sanity and peace of mind.

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Let good things come to you by embracing only positive energy. It is also important to learn how to forgive people, forgive yourself, and love yourself better. Getting rid of painful memories is being given a chance to live another life, being reborn and I’m sure you don’t want to make the same mistakes.

Some people find it difficult to forgive themselves, they tell themselves that they don’t deserve to live a good life. Everybody deserves to live a good life. No one in life can escape both fortunate and unfortunate events and whatever event happens to you, break through it and be a conqueror.

Hi there, I know you are struggling with those hurtful memories and painful past, they eat you up every day, but it is time to let them go, it is time to be reborn. Your existence is valuable, you are strong and you will survive.

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Get up now because you are a true hero.

Book recommendation

“Never Give Up” by Joyce Meyer